Honoring & Obeying parents as adults?

Q: 10C Obey and Honor parents is commanded. We cant pluck that verse out of context, as an adult I believe they live their own life. Wouldnt it also contradict other places in the Bible that says a man is to leave his mother and father once he's married? So, taking in the context of the verse is important because the Bible doesn't contradict itself.

A: Your not using the verse in context, & not overall biblical teaching on the topic, thus your opinions are clouding biblical truth. We dont just take a verse only at face value, it actually "means" something, and biblical cultural context needs to be included. Even so, it doesnt give a age in the verse your using here, it does it? In either verses. Thus age isnt a factor. 

Let's use critical thinking skills and common sense for a minute. Many adult children aren't married, so when does obeying them end? Our society doesn't have unwed son or daughter live at home until married, as Israel did, and should still be the standard. So if they're 30 & at home still, or 35 and unmarried, or 50 and unmarried, or decided to remain unmarried for life, when does their obeying and honoring parents end? In Scripture, it doesn't. You're looking at it through incorrect lenses, and not with spiritual eyes.  

It's a negative unbiblical unChristian assumption that is opposite of how the way life is lived out in godly homes. When an adult they don't "control you", same as as when raising you up in Christ, and in guiding you in spiritual and life matters at any age, you still are to honoring and obey where right, both as parents & fellow believers - even as an adult child. When an adult seeking their counsel, and where they see something needs addressing in righteousness, or to help guide you to avoid foolish decisions; like planning to do a dumb or bad financial decision, or to do something criminal, or dangerous, or that's detrimental to your marriage or children (spiritually, mentally even). Decisions that will damage your family like wirkaholic, or alcohol, drugs, or not treating your wife or kids right, or even in being neglegent in your duties as a husband leader, etc. Theres a million areas a parent can still call you to honor and obey them in right ways and its counseled in righteousness, for your good and your family' good & protection. 

If you ignore the parents counsel, do the wrong or unwise or sinful decisions, then the family and extended family can also be dishonored, like DUI (crash costs, medical costs, job loss, income loss, court issues, huge fines, & jail, harming others property, crashing into another driver, physically harming them, their kids or infants in the car, or even death. Causing the people to lose time, money, interrupting what they were doing, where they were going or even maybe just leaving a wedding or birth headed home, a number of possibilities, ruining lives, even leaving people disabled, ir greatly disabled). A entire family's life can be dishonored & destroyed by one sons stupid decision. Even more so if living in a smaller town. Whether the parent is in a community position, is pastor/leader at church, owns a business or ministry in town, is a mayor, sheriff, judge, congressman or whatever. It smears and marrs the entire family. Could lead to parents losing their business or career, siblings to. And the sons wife and kids lives forever horribly changed too. So you obey their call or counsel for you to not drink alcohol or not do drugs & not be around/befriending unsaved people (who all would be living sinful lives & making bad decisions in sin). 

This covers a lot around obeying and honoring parents at any age. 

See there:

Handling conflict with adult children

Honoring our Parents at every stage of life 

Also a few more resources

14 ways to Honor your Parents 

And note, among Christians, it's never a dictator type obedience demand. That's what unsaved sinful people do. Not what Christians do. What we do and how we live is in love and holiness. Thus what is done in training up a child or advised to an adult child is to always be one that has God at the center. 

Hope this helped educate more on the topic. 

God bless